Category Archives: Ask Nine Women

All the single ladies

I still remember when, shortly after moving into our ward, my good friend Melody was approached by a sister in the ward regarding some enrichment activity. Apparently the woman had mistaken her for another single sister who lived a few houses down the street. As Melody kindly straightened her out the woman abruptly said, “Oh. You’re the other one.” Continue reading

The perfect testimony?

Over the past few years, since they’ve really been emphasizing that you should only be bearing brief testimonies about the five key points of the gospel, I have more or less stopped bearing my testimony. I’m not sure who would want to hear me go up to the pulpit and recite a list of five sentences? I have never been one to do “thank-a-monies” or travelogues, and I certainly have never taken more than about three minutes, but there’s got to be a happy medium between repeating a list by rote and telling a novel.

How do you bear your testimony? How can I make mine more than just five sentences and make sure it is heartfelt, interesting to listen to, and still within the guidelines?

After a brief hiatus, I am excited to resume our Ask Nine Women posts. (And no worries, the follow-up to this post is still coming soon.) We very much appreciate your submissions and your comments.

Want to bring something to the table to discuss? Please suggest appropriate discussion topics via e-mail to askninewomenATgmailDOTcom. Submissions are chosen at random and contributors’ names will not be disclosed unless requested.

How do we put the “society” in Relief Society (or society in general)?

I still remember how excited I was when we moved out of the dark basement apartment in my single cousin’s bachelor pad and into our first home. It was a hole (a tiny one at that). But it was in a nice neighborhood, close to my husband’s school, and it was ours.

Our new ward was so great. They knew all about us and had our names and pictures in the ward directory before we even closed on the house. We quickly became the new “it” couple and even though we had two young children we were immediately put right to work in the very large and involved Young Men and Young Women programs. There was only one problem. Continue reading

Too late to start over?

The global economy is in the toilet. A close relative of mine is looking at being laid off just before the holidays. My friends whose husbands are contractors were turning work away just six months ago. Now their work–and thus their livelihoods–have slowed to a trickle. I’m sure this Segullah reader isn’t the only one who is taking a cold hard look at what lies ahead and considering changing up the game plan. (In fact, I recently learned that higher ed enrollment rose almost 10 percent locally in recent months.) She would love to hear your suggestions, things you’ve maybe learned the hard way, as well as your success stories.

My husband and I are in our late 30s with four children. I’m a SAHM and my husband works as an aircraft mechanic. Things aren’t going well at work, and his efforts to find a new job these last months have proved fruitless. Continue reading

Let’s dish

Today’s two-part discussion for Ask Nine Women comes from another anonymous reader (or two). But it could have come from anyone. Isn’t that the beauty of it?

My mother would probably be horrified, but when I think back on the family dinners I knew as a child, I remember one pound of ground beef magnified to the power of 8 by some protein enhancement that looked and tasted not unlike All-Bran. I recall the nights when one box of Kraft Macaroni and Cheese somehow doubled as dinner for seven with the help of sumptuous stir ins of peas and/or sliced hot dogs. And who can forget how the sickly sweet taste of powdered milk can turn one gallon of milk into two? The irony is that we lived on a farm complete with a dairy and beef cow or two, so we shouldn’t have been wanting for milk or meat.

Nevertheless, I remain impressed by my mother’s skill in managing two amazing feats: 1). Despite an often-meager budget, my mom never sent anyone away hungry and 2). Even with six kids she usually managed to get all of us to the table at the same time.

So here are today’s topics:

I. In this day and age a trip to the grocery store can run me more than a month’s utilities and prices continue to rise (over 6% in ’07 and expected to top another 6% this year).

How do you do manage to feed the same number (or more) people while your grocery dollar buys you significantly less? Please share any tips you have for stretching your grocery dollar or taking food for two or four and doubling your assets.

II. Despite being an advocate of not over scheduling children (or myself for that matter), I am lucky if more than half of us are same place at one time for family dinner. I really loved this Slate article which I’ve renamed, “Family: It’s what’s for dinner.”

What do you think? What are some of your own successes and struggles with family dinner. (Please tell me I’m not the only one occasionally serving breakfast cereal for dinner at 8:30 at night.)

Want to bring something to the table to discuss? Suggest topics via e-mail to askninewomenATgmailDOTcom. Submissions are chosen at random.