Comments on: To Let

By: Jenn Senior

Jenn Senior — Thu, 22 Jan 2009 21:39:14 +0000

yet again a beautifully written post cjane

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Monday best of last week: link style « The Misadventures of Kelly and Kelly — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 07:36:40 +0000

[...] this post from the ever entertaining c jane is fun and a good read, but most of all it is honest. and where most of us were as first time moms. and even as second time moms. my brain has calmed a lot with the second child but i still have many moments. but she gets to a good point, and that is to trust that there is something beyond us helping out. and that calms me down every time. [...]

By: Leisha

Leisha — Sat, 17 Jan 2009 04:48:52 +0000

I was the same. My fear stemmed from the fact that it took forever to get my babies and I couldn’t just make another if something happened to them. My anxiety has calmed for the same reason as yours.

By: Alison Moore Smith

Alison Moore Smith — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 05:51:12 +0000

best. post. ever. Bless your heart for having the courage to speak truth.

As a young mom, I kind of had the nebulous idea of “heir and a spare.” When we have MORE kids, I’ll worry LESS. That was BEFORE I had any more kids and found out that fear grows exponentially (at least with me) with each subsequent birth.

I have six kids, ages 5-21. I still “tuck in” my 21-year-old every night–and she moved out to go to college over three years ago! I can’t stand not being able to SEE each one–still breathing–each and every night. I almost can’t sleep without KNOWING they are OK.

While that’s all true and my brain goes crazy with worry every day– and I’ve resigned myself to never being relaxed again–I’ve had to force myself to temper the craziness. (No! YOU are not crazy…just me.) Because I can spend the rest of my life being incapacitated by fear–and never enjoy anything about my kids–or I can realize that the fear isn’t going to prevent anything anyway. It’s just going to make us all miserable. So I try really hard to push the fear aside and enjoy every minute of my kids. Even the minute right now when my 15-year-old is lying in bed talking to a BOY when she’s supposed to be asleep. (Even if he is the teacher’s! quorum! president!)

And if I don’t find multiple situations in which to use the phrase “Spa-friggin-ghetti,” I will never be completely fulfilled.

By: Rachelle

Rachelle — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 04:34:19 +0000

For some reason I was up at 1 am, unable to sleep checking on my 10 yr old boy. Poor kid, I tripped on a toy and woke him up. Scared the living daylights out of him. Tonight I am staying in bed.

By: Pam D.

Pam D. — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 02:37:41 +0000

I’m going to venture a guess that some of your worrying is due to your rocky start into motherhood. I don’t think I would have been quite the worrier early on in my mothering if I hadn’t been through 3 years of infertility treatments (that word is far too kind for the true process)only to have my first son arrive 12 weeks early and then spend 86 days (yes, 12 years later I still remember exactly)in the hospital. After all of that I could hardly believe anyone, ever, in all of time, could get pregnant all by themselves, and that a baby could survive the womb and to top it all off, breathe all on his own. Talk about miracles.

My greatest hope for you is that there are many more babies to come and with them, no more time for worrying.

By: Cori

Cori — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 23:42:51 +0000

I have two grown daughters who no longer live with us and two grandchildren. I call them at least every other day to make sure they are all still breathing and that, in the breathing, they are finding joy in the moment. It’s a difficult challenge to “Let go, let God,” but a great blessing to all in your aura.

Bless you on your path.

By: Jason

Jason — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 21:56:19 +0000

I don’t know if I am normal or not, but I find that I am a little less crazy with my fourth child as I was with my first. I sometimes feel guilty that I don’t check as much, that I don’t focus on every little thing like I did with my first child. I often wonder, “Do I treat my daughters different than my sons?” But, I just hope to do the best I can for all of them.

By: Maggie Roe

Maggie Roe — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 17:05:36 +0000

I think it’s funny that you don’t exactly “trust” your brother, the MD, the pediatrician. My husbands best friend is a pediatrician, but not OUR pediatrician. How can I take him seriously when I see him playing Wii and acting like a teenager with my husband? Not possible!

But- I sure won’t hesitate to speed dial him the second something doesn’t feel right!

By: AZgirl

AZgirl — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 09:08:35 +0000

Wow, so many staying up checking on kids. Add me to the list. I have 3 special needs kiddos, but my oldest also has a seizure disorder, so either I am sleeping with her or not sleeping at all…There is no worse feeling than wondering what one may find upon walking into my child’s room sometimes. To all of you with healthy children, I know you worry too, but please get your rest!