I have three children from seven pregnancies. I have a wonderful, well-intended mother-in-law who insists that the true doctrine is that a child is not “alive” until a breath is taken. Having gone through four very different miscarriages, I am simply not certain. I, too, was bleeding profusely, yet saw the image of a healthy, strong, vibrant baby boy on the ultrasound screen. Twenty-four hours later, I was in the ER, holding this perfect little two-inch body in the palm of my hand with my husband by my side. It was one of the most touching and bonding moments of our marriage as we mourned our loss and were humbled, awed, and amazed at the miracle of creation. Since then, I have given birth to two beautiful little girls. So, I’m not all the way convinced that there is “one” right answer or “one” correct doctrine. I have never considered that “the church” does this on purpose so that each of us can find our own answers. That was very poignant, and I thank you for that gem of thought. All I know is that I feel a connection, a motherly love as soon as that little stick indicates a positive reading (and sometimes before). I also know that I am closer to my Savior having gone through that sorrow. My heart goes out to all of you.