Comments on: Trusting My Premortal Self http://segullah.org/cjane-speaks/trusting-my-premortal-self/ Mormon women blogging about the peculiar and the treasured Tue, 22 May 2012 23:05:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: bon http://segullah.org/cjane-speaks/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-9601 bon Sun, 20 May 2007 20:06:55 +0000 http://segullah.org/blog/segullah-article-discussions/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-9601 All my life I have wished for fuller lips. I have a teeny tiny baby-doll mouth, with lips that are a touch on the thin side. I had always viewed them with disdain until I had babies. I gave birth to three little girls who have mouths and lips so like my own, and for the first time in my life I see myself more clearly. How could I have hated my lips? Not to sound vain, but I now realize that I have a perfect and petite set of lips, and a beautiful mouth in general! I smile sadly when I see actresses with lovely mouths disfiguring themselves for a puffier pout, is that look supposed to be attractive? I smile with my adorable lips. All my life I have wished for fuller lips. I have a teeny tiny baby-doll mouth, with lips that are a touch on the thin side. I had always viewed them with disdain until I had babies. I gave birth to three little girls who have mouths and lips so like my own, and for the first time in my life I see myself more clearly. How could I have hated my lips?

Not to sound vain, but I now realize that I have a perfect and petite set of lips, and a beautiful mouth in general! I smile sadly when I see actresses with lovely mouths disfiguring themselves for a puffier pout, is that look supposed to be attractive? I smile with my adorable lips.

]]> By: Miggy http://segullah.org/cjane-speaks/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-9021 Miggy Fri, 11 May 2007 14:45:39 +0000 http://segullah.org/blog/segullah-article-discussions/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-9021 I kinda have a lot of stuff I like about my body. . . Is that vain? I like my wrists--they're very small and delicate. In fact once my mom was looking at a bracelette carved out of bone and the lady said she's never seen it fit an adult because it was too small and my mom said "let me get my daughter in here" and it fit me. I have nice lips. . . they're full-ish and a lovely shape. I also have nice hands . . . and I'm grateful that the both work so I can paint, play guitar, hold my baby, cook, etc. I've also been told that my nose is the kind of nose you would want to model your nose job after. I find that a lot of things I like about my body are things that I've been complimented on. . . I think some things I liked before the compliments, but others I didn't notice until a few people said something about that particular body part. Interesting. I kinda have a lot of stuff I like about my body. . . Is that vain? I like my wrists–they’re very small and delicate. In fact once my mom was looking at a bracelette carved out of bone and the lady said she’s never seen it fit an adult because it was too small and my mom said “let me get my daughter in here” and it fit me. I have nice lips. . . they’re full-ish and a lovely shape. I also have nice hands . . . and I’m grateful that the both work so I can paint, play guitar, hold my baby, cook, etc. I’ve also been told that my nose is the kind of nose you would want to model your nose job after. I find that a lot of things I like about my body are things that I’ve been complimented on. . . I think some things I liked before the compliments, but others I didn’t notice until a few people said something about that particular body part. Interesting.

]]> By: Carrie http://segullah.org/cjane-speaks/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-8978 Carrie Thu, 10 May 2007 21:38:03 +0000 http://segullah.org/blog/segullah-article-discussions/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-8978 Thanks for this post. And thanks to the person, way back up at the top or in the middle somewhere who said that our pregnant/post-pregnancy bodies are amazing because they brought a new life into the world. I really need to remember that and be thankful for it. I like the color of my hair and I love the shape of my eyes. I like that my eyelashes and brows are very dark, even though that dark hair is also found above my lips and I have to Sally Hansen it once a week...but at least I can run to the grocery store without mascara and I don't look too different. I like that my lips and cheeks are pink without adding anything to them. I generally like my face. And I like that my teeth are pretty straight except for one of my bottom teeth that goes in a lot exactly like my grandmother's. I like my double-jointed thumbs and the fact that I can roll my tongue and also turn it upside-down and make that rolling r sound (which I'm told is genetic.) I like my long arms and my little son has my arms and I like that. And finally, my husband REALLY likes my breasts, even though I'm totally lopsided, and so I like them too. Thanks for this post. And thanks to the person, way back up at the top or in the middle somewhere who said that our pregnant/post-pregnancy bodies are amazing because they brought a new life into the world. I really need to remember that and be thankful for it.

I like the color of my hair and I love the shape of my eyes. I like that my eyelashes and brows are very dark, even though that dark hair is also found above my lips and I have to Sally Hansen it once a week…but at least I can run to the grocery store without mascara and I don’t look too different. I like that my lips and cheeks are pink without adding anything to them. I generally like my face. And I like that my teeth are pretty straight except for one of my bottom teeth that goes in a lot exactly like my grandmother’s. I like my double-jointed thumbs and the fact that I can roll my tongue and also turn it upside-down and make that rolling r sound (which I’m told is genetic.) I like my long arms and my little son has my arms and I like that.

And finally, my husband REALLY likes my breasts, even though I’m totally lopsided, and so I like them too.

]]> By: Tami http://segullah.org/cjane-speaks/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-8975 Tami Thu, 10 May 2007 19:27:11 +0000 http://segullah.org/blog/segullah-article-discussions/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-8975 You women have inspired me to look at myself in a different way than I always have. I was really having a hard time writing what I liked about myself. I even had to leave and come back to have the courage to do this. But here it goes. My long slender hands that have younger than their age looking skin. I love them most when they are covered in dirt from digging in the garden! My lips are pretty good (especially for kissin my hubby). My feet get extra special attention and I think I must really like them to give them so much attention. They look best on the beach all covered in sand (and in cute shoes). My hair deserves a round of applause because it is pretty versatile and I have yet to get many grey hairs and I am 50. Genetics. Thanks Dad! Hoorah! I am kind of liking this so I think I am go to keep on going here girls. My legs are long and would look pretty good in a mini skirt if I wore them, but I don't, but I think they might look pretty good. I have always loved my shoulders. I think they are my very bestest feature. My collar bones are pretty good too. So in general the area between my chin and by boobs is pretty exceptional. Oh this is SOOO liberating. I might just come back to this thread occasionally for a little pick me up. Elder Holland is right we don't need plastic surgery just a little gratitude for what is good. Courtney you are the bomb! I have to wonder what else is lurking around in that pretty little head of yours to inspire the world. You are a wondeful gift to this world indeed!!!!!!!! Give your Mom and Dad a big hug for me for bringing you into this wonderful world. You women have inspired me to look at myself in a different way than I always have. I was really having a hard time writing what I liked about myself. I even had to leave and come back to have the courage to do this. But here it goes.

My long slender hands that have younger than their age looking skin. I love them most when they are covered in dirt from digging in the garden!

My lips are pretty good (especially for kissin my hubby).

My feet get extra special attention and I think I must really like them to give them so much attention. They look best on the beach all covered in sand (and in cute shoes).

My hair deserves a round of applause because it is pretty versatile and I have yet to get many grey hairs and I am 50. Genetics. Thanks Dad!

Hoorah! I am kind of liking this so I think I am go to keep on going here girls.

My legs are long and would look pretty good in a mini skirt if I wore them, but I don’t, but I think they might look pretty good.

I have always loved my shoulders. I think they are my very bestest feature. My collar bones are pretty good too. So in general the area between my chin and by boobs is pretty exceptional.

Oh this is SOOO liberating. I might just come back to this thread occasionally for a little pick me up. Elder Holland is right we don’t need plastic surgery just a little gratitude for what is good.

Courtney you are the bomb! I have to wonder what else is lurking around in that pretty little head of yours to inspire the world. You are a wondeful gift to this world indeed!!!!!!!! Give your Mom and Dad a big hug for me for bringing you into this wonderful world.

]]> By: Rosalynde http://segullah.org/cjane-speaks/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-8957 Rosalynde Thu, 10 May 2007 14:59:33 +0000 http://segullah.org/blog/segullah-article-discussions/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-8957 Hi Noelle! How fun to run into you here! You are indeed a beautiful woman with gorgeous eyes, great skin, great hair, and a great figure---and beautiful on the inside, too! We miss you here! Hi Noelle! How fun to run into you here! You are indeed a beautiful woman with gorgeous eyes, great skin, great hair, and a great figure—and beautiful on the inside, too! We miss you here!

]]> By: Rachel http://segullah.org/cjane-speaks/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-8945 Rachel Thu, 10 May 2007 06:14:03 +0000 http://segullah.org/blog/segullah-article-discussions/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-8945 I have taken many figure painting classes in art school. It's been a rare opportunity to really study the human body and then to describe a body's beauty on canvas. People will ask me if all the models are skinny, tight, and athletic. Actually, no. But I can't think of one body that wasn't beautiful and amazing. God's creations are ALL beautiful. Some bodies are old and wrinkly. Some are plump and round. For me, what makes each model intersting is their unique qualities, be it a long neck, round belly, or lean muscle. Even though everyone's bodies are so different, they are also all very familiar and consistent. We are all created in Heavenly Father's image. I can use the same methods to measure out any body I see on paper. What do I like about my body? I probably appreciate my hands more than anything else. With them, I can do most anything. I have taken many figure painting classes in art school. It’s been a rare opportunity to really study the human body and then to describe a body’s beauty on canvas. People will ask me if all the models are skinny, tight, and athletic. Actually, no. But I can’t think of one body that wasn’t beautiful and amazing. God’s creations are ALL beautiful. Some bodies are old and wrinkly. Some are plump and round. For me, what makes each model intersting is their unique qualities, be it a long neck, round belly, or lean muscle.

Even though everyone’s bodies are so different, they are also all very familiar and consistent. We are all created in Heavenly Father’s image. I can use the same methods to measure out any body I see on paper.

What do I like about my body? I probably appreciate my hands more than anything else. With them, I can do most anything.

]]> By: Geo http://segullah.org/cjane-speaks/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-8944 Geo Thu, 10 May 2007 05:57:35 +0000 http://segullah.org/blog/segullah-article-discussions/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-8944 I love my skin . . . when I'm in North Carolina . . . because that's where I turn into head-to-toe silk (Rob appreciates this too). I also love my hair in that state, not because it does anything right while I'm there, but because it consistently does everything wrong, to the point of frizzing and undulating in the yummy humid lushness that is the Deep South. If I stay at the beach long enough, it even considers dreading itself. I always love my "beauty marks," particularly the one by my eye, the downy one on my earlobe (love dem earlobes), and the scattered ones Rob calls his constellation. Yep. I love my shoulders, though I don't show 'em off anymore. Clavicle—ditto and check. Bellybutton—check. My multi-colored chameleon eyes—check, check. My hands—check, check. My brain—for keeping the pros and cons networked and running. Other parts for practicality and also recreation (if not yet procreation). Loved your post. Very nice to come home to. I love my skin . . . when I’m in North Carolina . . . because that’s where I turn into head-to-toe silk (Rob appreciates this too). I also love my hair in that state, not because it does anything right while I’m there, but because it consistently does everything wrong, to the point of frizzing and undulating in the yummy humid lushness that is the Deep South. If I stay at the beach long enough, it even considers dreading itself.

I always love my “beauty marks,” particularly the one by my eye, the downy one on my earlobe (love dem earlobes), and the scattered ones Rob calls his constellation. Yep. I love my shoulders, though I don’t show ‘em off anymore. Clavicle—ditto and check. Bellybutton—check. My multi-colored chameleon eyes—check, check. My hands—check, check. My brain—for keeping the pros and cons networked and running. Other parts for practicality and also recreation (if not yet procreation).

Loved your post. Very nice to come home to.

]]> By: Noelle Tomco http://segullah.org/cjane-speaks/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-8939 Noelle Tomco Thu, 10 May 2007 03:23:00 +0000 http://segullah.org/blog/segullah-article-discussions/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-8939 Every Wednesday I take a power lifting class and my teacher always says 'aren't you glad you are here?' Do you know how many people can't do what you are doing?' I often just crack a smile and continue to concentrate on my bulging midline. I am grateful for this post. I realized how lucky i am though i also realize every single day that my eating makes me feel so out of control. if i ate like i wanted to all the time i would have to have a crane to get me out of bed. it is a fine line between being grateful for what God has given you and letting it just go to being healthy and doing something to be your best self and not going over the top extreme with that. i need to be happy with my floppy middle and be grateful that i am healthy. ps. i love my long eye lashes and thin ankles and wrists. when we're in heaven and we all have those robes on and all you can see is wrists and ankles i'll be the 'thinnest' one around. Every Wednesday I take a power lifting class and my teacher always says ‘aren’t you glad you are here?’ Do you know how many people can’t do what you are doing?’ I often just crack a smile and continue to concentrate on my bulging midline. I am grateful for this post. I realized how lucky i am though i also realize every single day that my eating makes me feel so out of control. if i ate like i wanted to all the time i would have to have a crane to get me out of bed. it is a fine line between being grateful for what God has given you and letting it just go to being healthy and doing something to be your best self and not going over the top extreme with that. i need to be happy with my floppy middle and be grateful that i am healthy.
ps. i love my long eye lashes and thin ankles and wrists. when we’re in heaven and we all have those robes on and all you can see is wrists and ankles i’ll be the ‘thinnest’ one around.

]]> By: brooke http://segullah.org/cjane-speaks/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-8934 brooke Thu, 10 May 2007 01:33:33 +0000 http://segullah.org/blog/segullah-article-discussions/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-8934 so i guess i must've said something like, "i will take the fat arms to help me..." what now? hold babies? not even have the slightest inkling to wear tank tops? oh what was i thinking?! :) i truly believe we have certain attributes to keep us humble-- i believe even moreso that heavenly father wants us to overcome the natural [wo]man and get over the physical hang-ups. which is so difficult. but i look at my daughters all the time and think: they are so much more than the sum of their parts-- they are truly miraculous and amazing simply because they are them. and for the record: i love my feet. they're really bony and can fit into all sorts of cute shoes... no matter if i'm in a fat or thin phase, pregnant or postpartum, stretchy jeans or skinny jeans. it's really quite lovely. so i guess i must’ve said something like, “i will take the fat arms to help me…” what now? hold babies? not even have the slightest inkling to wear tank tops? oh what was i thinking?! :)

i truly believe we have certain attributes to keep us humble– i believe even moreso that heavenly father wants us to overcome the natural [wo]man and get over the physical hang-ups. which is so difficult. but i look at my daughters all the time and think: they are so much more than the sum of their parts– they are truly miraculous and amazing simply because they are them.

and for the record: i love my feet. they’re really bony and can fit into all sorts of cute shoes… no matter if i’m in a fat or thin phase, pregnant or postpartum, stretchy jeans or skinny jeans. it’s really quite lovely.

]]> By: Marilyn http://segullah.org/cjane-speaks/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-8933 Marilyn Thu, 10 May 2007 00:41:58 +0000 http://segullah.org/blog/segullah-article-discussions/trusting-my-premortal-self/#comment-8933 Great post Courtney. On your other post I said that I would not ever have plastic surgery, and that I would just like to have lasik eye surgery and braces. I still feel that way, but there are things that I like about myself. I am proud that I have given birth 4 times all-natural, no pain killers. Before children I was very thin, well now, not so much. But I love my hair, specifically the color. I have only highlighted my hair once several years ago and I won't do it again. I decided that my God-given color is beautiful and perfect for me. I also love my eyes, a greenish brownish color. Pretty. But probably my favorite thing about myself are my lips. Full. But not too full. I have really enjoyed reading everyone's comments and I will try to work on providing a great example to my 3 daughters on what real women look like and hopefully someday they won't go through the terrible body image thing like I have. Great post Courtney. On your other post I said that I would not ever have plastic surgery, and that I would just like to have lasik eye surgery and braces. I still feel that way, but there are things that I like about myself. I am proud that I have given birth 4 times all-natural, no pain killers. Before children I was very thin, well now, not so much. But I love my hair, specifically the color. I have only highlighted my hair once several years ago and I won’t do it again. I decided that my God-given color is beautiful and perfect for me.

I also love my eyes, a greenish brownish color. Pretty.

But probably my favorite thing about myself are my lips. Full. But not too full.

I have really enjoyed reading everyone’s comments and I will try to work on providing a great example to my 3 daughters on what real women look like and hopefully someday they won’t go through the terrible body image thing like I have.

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