You Love Me

Posted by c jane/Courtney K. | February 14, 2007 | 8 Comments

When I met my husband Christopher it was over. I wanted to marry him and nobody else. Hand him the roses, slap on the crown, throw on a new sash that says “Mr. Courtney” and sing “Here He Is” as he walks the catwalk waving and wiping tears.

And, eventually he wanted to marry me too.

Early in the relationship I was complete in loving Christopher. I was all about what I could do for him. I scurried around making waffles and Family Home Evening treasure hunts. I produced cookies and rubbed his back. I left notes in his car in the morning. Reserved plenty of hot water for his shower. You know what? Hand me the roses, slap on the crown, throw on a new sash that says “Mrs. Wife of the Universe” and sing “There She Goes” as I walk down the street to the local convenience store for his favorite green beverage.

And, eventually I realized that he loved me too.

When I heard about the health in marriage, to me it was about two people loving each other. Recently though, I have come to understand that equally (and on some days, if not more) it is about two people feeling loved. I arrived (a little late) at this understanding the other day while I was cutting a tomato. Christopher came into the kitchen, swiped the hair from the back of my neck and firmly kissed the spot where my skull and vertebra meet. That man, I thought third person-ish, really loves you.

And this distinction created new emotions. I love him. He loves me. I love him for loving me. He loves me for loving him.

I am spending most of this Day of Devotion to Romantic Love at home with my husband. As this concept is fairly new to me, I intend on feeling loved all day. Tomorrow, I will get back to folding his golf shirts in perfectly round little bundles as they emerge fresh from the drier.

‘Cause nothing spells l-o-v-e more than laundry.

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Comments

8 Responses to “You Love Me”

  1. Jennifer B.
    February 14th, 2007 @ 11:27 am

    Nice to see you back! Hope your day is filled with feeling loved. Thanks for the thought. I’m going to figure out what things will make my husband feel loved (rather than doing whatever makes ME feel like I’m being loving)and then do them!

  2. Justine
    February 14th, 2007 @ 11:33 am

    The thing about today is, if you don’t feel that love and give that love all the other days of the year, today really isn’t going to cut it! So good job, good job, cjane. Enjoy today, and glad to see you back!

  3. Angie
    February 14th, 2007 @ 12:31 pm

    Welcome back. I have a feeling you’re going to get lots of virtual Valentines today from friends who have missed you. Enjoy. You are loved!

  4. Leisha
    February 14th, 2007 @ 12:50 pm

    And now….I feel loved….CJane is back! Happy Valentine’s, glad you’re back!

  5. lyle
    February 14th, 2007 @ 12:57 pm

    That Chupstar.

    I’ll admit that I have a hard time picturing him wearing a crown and sash.

  6. Pflower
    February 14th, 2007 @ 1:41 pm

    I’m so glad to see you back…..Does folding the laundry mean you really, really, extra special love someone??? Have you ever shared your love story with us??? Not to pry but I think that would be a wonderful story. Gotta go start some new loads of love-a-washin’.

  7. Heather H
    February 14th, 2007 @ 11:30 pm

    I just dragged our laundry up the hill in the snow and freezing cold, make that below freezing cold, last night and folded it into the early morning and tucked it all away in its assigned spots and considered ironing shirts for the one I love, so he’d feel loved, and then decided I’d better wait until I had some time without the 18-month-old little guy who likes buttons and pulling things down. And though my lips are chapped from the biting wind and my the shirts are still wrinkly, I think it was an extra special dose of love I showed for the fam and that makes me feel good too.

    Glad you’re back Courtney.

  8. Geo
    February 15th, 2007 @ 12:54 pm

    There’s nothing much sweeter than that breakthrough. Love can be so hard to really deep-down receive, even though we crave it. Maybe there’s some special connection between that particular spot on the neck and the ability to absorb love.

    Glad you’re feeling it, cjane. (Glad too that I know in my neck and heart what you’re talking about.)