Comments on: A stone’s throw http://segullah.org/daily-special/a-stones-throw/ Mormon women blogging about the peculiar and the treasured Wed, 23 May 2012 03:05:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: The Missing Piece in Conflicts | Mormon Bloggers http://segullah.org/daily-special/a-stones-throw/#comment-167395 The Missing Piece in Conflicts | Mormon Bloggers Mon, 14 Dec 2009 14:30:37 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=2476#comment-167395 [...] sponsored a two-part introspective post at Segullah, A Stone’s Throw,  for readers to consider the conflict that arises often between women when we assume things about [...] [...] sponsored a two-part introspective post at Segullah, A Stone’s Throw,  for readers to consider the conflict that arises often between women when we assume things about [...]

]]> By: Sage http://segullah.org/daily-special/a-stones-throw/#comment-135000 Sage Sun, 29 Mar 2009 19:33:24 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=2476#comment-135000 People can be so insensitive--especially men. But we also need to realize they don't know what they don't know and if we want them to know so they don't think something about us that isn't true, we need to be willing to tell them. If we aren't afraid to share a little, they might realize ways they could be more sensitive to others. We often don't want to rock the boat, but how can anyone learn if we don't help each other! I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt you, but if he'd known your struggles, then he could "mourn with those that mourn" and support you instead of throw a stone. People can be so insensitive–especially men. But we also need to realize they don’t know what they don’t know and if we want them to know so they don’t think something about us that isn’t true, we need to be willing to tell them. If we aren’t afraid to share a little, they might realize ways they could be more sensitive to others. We often don’t want to rock the boat, but how can anyone learn if we don’t help each other! I’m sure he didn’t mean to hurt you, but if he’d known your struggles, then he could “mourn with those that mourn” and support you instead of throw a stone.

]]> By: Sage http://segullah.org/daily-special/a-stones-throw/#comment-134998 Sage Sun, 29 Mar 2009 19:17:29 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=2476#comment-134998 Amen to that. I had the same thing happen with my sister. Her words still ring in my ears and it's been 18 years. We have patched it up though. Amen to that. I had the same thing happen with my sister. Her words still ring in my ears and it’s been 18 years. We have patched it up though.

]]> By: Kay http://segullah.org/daily-special/a-stones-throw/#comment-134473 Kay Thu, 26 Mar 2009 13:59:02 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=2476#comment-134473 Recently we had the lesson on living together in peace and harmony from the Joseph Smith manual. Our president decided that she didn't want the usual 3rd Sunday teacher to teach it, but that it should be me as a member of the presidency. This is because we have so many issues in our ward between the sisters, some go back years and generations, some are between whole families. Not fun. There is rarely a Sunday goes by when I am not dealing with a crying sister. She wanted me to teach the lesson but also give out the message loud and clear that we should all try to be nicer to each other, let things go, don't take offense, don't gossip, don't exaggerate, don't lie etc. We discussed the lesson format, and I actually began the lesson by saying that we hoped noone would take offense at what would be said but that I would be saying it like it was. I said that this lesson is for everyone, if someone's name has popped into your head now as needing to hear this then they probably do but so do you. Several sisters came to see me afterwards to say that it had changed their thinking about things. The sad thing was, that although the Elders quorum and High priests were having the same lesson in the same ward, we doubt they had even guessed they had a dodgy topic!! Recently we had the lesson on living together in peace and harmony from the Joseph Smith manual. Our president decided that she didn’t want the usual 3rd Sunday teacher to teach it, but that it should be me as a member of the presidency. This is because we have so many issues in our ward between the sisters, some go back years and generations, some are between whole families. Not fun. There is rarely a Sunday goes by when I am not dealing with a crying sister.

She wanted me to teach the lesson but also give out the message loud and clear that we should all try to be nicer to each other, let things go, don’t take offense, don’t gossip, don’t exaggerate, don’t lie etc. We discussed the lesson format, and I actually began the lesson by saying that we hoped noone would take offense at what would be said but that I would be saying it like it was. I said that this lesson is for everyone, if someone’s name has popped into your head now as needing to hear this then they probably do but so do you. Several sisters came to see me afterwards to say that it had changed their thinking about things.

The sad thing was, that although the Elders quorum and High priests were having the same lesson in the same ward, we doubt they had even guessed they had a dodgy topic!!

]]> By: Geo http://segullah.org/daily-special/a-stones-throw/#comment-134386 Geo Thu, 26 Mar 2009 04:07:09 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=2476#comment-134386 Do I! Listen, Rob and I saw the greatest modern dance concert last night—a company from NYC. I was so inspired. They did the most amazing and beautiful and joyful things, all in bare feet. Seemed just like what my soul wants to do. So, yes, I'm ready to kick off my shoes and bust a move! Do I! Listen, Rob and I saw the greatest modern dance concert last night—a company from NYC. I was so inspired. They did the most amazing and beautiful and joyful things, all in bare feet. Seemed just like what my soul wants to do. So, yes, I’m ready to kick off my shoes and bust a move!

]]> By: Carina http://segullah.org/daily-special/a-stones-throw/#comment-134347 Carina Thu, 26 Mar 2009 00:41:02 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=2476#comment-134347 Editorial Note: The editors removed some comments from this discussion for violating the Segullah Comment Policy: no personal attacks. We respect differing opinions and healthy disagreements, but have zero tolerance for personal attacks. If you would like to personally attack people, may I refer you to the rest of the Internet? Now, let's resume our discussion. Editorial Note:

The editors removed some comments from this discussion for violating the Segullah Comment Policy: no personal attacks.

We respect differing opinions and healthy disagreements, but have zero tolerance for personal attacks. If you would like to personally attack people, may I refer you to the rest of the Internet?

Now, let’s resume our discussion.

]]> By: Dalene http://segullah.org/daily-special/a-stones-throw/#comment-134326 Dalene Wed, 25 Mar 2009 22:58:54 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=2476#comment-134326 I've always wanted to do that (respond to every comment individually). If I missed someone, please don't be offended--I tried! And now I am completely tired of seeing my face in the comments and my name in the sidebar, so I bid you all farewell. Thank you for participating today. I've learned something from everyone! I’ve always wanted to do that (respond to every comment individually). If I missed someone, please don’t be offended–I tried! And now I am completely tired of seeing my face in the comments and my name in the sidebar, so I bid you all farewell. Thank you for participating today. I’ve learned something from everyone!

]]> By: Dalene http://segullah.org/daily-special/a-stones-throw/#comment-134323 Dalene Wed, 25 Mar 2009 22:57:05 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=2476#comment-134323 Thank you for sharing that passage of scripture. Maybe I should put together a little "prayer book" with some of these wonderful scriptures to help me through this the nex time something like this happens to me. And I wish you and your boys the very best. Thank you for sharing that passage of scripture. Maybe I should put together a little “prayer book” with some of these wonderful scriptures to help me through this the nex time something like this happens to me. And I wish you and your boys the very best.

]]> By: Dalene http://segullah.org/daily-special/a-stones-throw/#comment-134322 Dalene Wed, 25 Mar 2009 22:54:20 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=2476#comment-134322 I think canceling a wedding is a very brave thing to do (and easier done before than after). I'm sorry it wasn't taken better at the time, but I do hope you later found someone wonderful! I think canceling a wedding is a very brave thing to do (and easier done before than after). I’m sorry it wasn’t taken better at the time, but I do hope you later found someone wonderful!

]]> By: Dalene http://segullah.org/daily-special/a-stones-throw/#comment-134321 Dalene Wed, 25 Mar 2009 22:52:45 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=2476#comment-134321 Interesting question. Do you think women are more offensive and/or more easily offended because they are mean and/or more sensitive or because they are more verbal and possibly have more chance to offend and/or be offended? Interesting question. Do you think women are more offensive and/or more easily offended because they are mean and/or more sensitive or because they are more verbal and possibly have more chance to offend and/or be offended?

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