Comments on: Change

By: m&m

m&m — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 20:15:18 +0000

Great post. Thank you. (Being a mom is such a sobering responsibility!)

By: Laurel

Laurel — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 03:07:24 +0000

This is lovely, Kai. I remember talking to my mom at night, too. It’s a time when the stresses of the day, for both parent and child, have begun to dissipate, inhibitions are lowered, interruptions are fewer, and then, there’s a sense of security, talking in the dark. We all know that, right?

Thank you, Sharlee, for inviting me.

By: Dalene

Dalene — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 00:57:17 +0000

My favorite way to sneak in one-on-one time and draw a few words out of my kids is to invite one on errands–especially the grocery store. Some are more talkative than others and some will tell you more than you want to know about some parts of their lives and keep other parts completely hidden. But even when you don’t realize it they find your presence reassuring and they feel of your love.

It’s a really great adventure–I promise!

By: Heather O.

Heather O. — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 00:35:00 +0000

I am so screwed.

By: Zina

Zina — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 03:48:59 +0000

My nearly-11 son has hardly anything to say about school or church or friends — BUT if he gets going on Wii games or Nintendo or Legos, it seems endless. I hope I do a good enough job of listening to those things by nodding and saying “uh-huh” (which usually is all he asks of me, although once or twice I’ve gotten caught when he asks a follow-up question that stumps me — although he’s also usually happy to repeat it all over if I missed part of it.) Anyway I hope my patience with those topics will make him feel free to talk with me about more important things, as needed.

By: D.

D. — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 02:02:36 +0000

Thanks for this post! My daughter is this age also and I feel like I am standing on the edge of a cliff just waiting to fall into teenagerdom. I think being a girl, she tends to talk more openly – but things are still scary and it is hard to reconcile that she is growing up and becoming her own person and that I am but a small part of her world, where she is such a big part of mine. “They grow up so fast” is really so true. I’ve noticed that my 8 year old son who doesn’t talk as openly will talk and talk at bed time. I got sad in the children’s section of the book store the other day when I realized that I have no need to buy any more lovely picture books for my growing up kids.

By: bek

bek — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 00:29:50 +0000

Great post. I love this. I have a wise friend whose chidren have all grown up and she told me that the only way she could get her big boys to talk to her was to either be moving with them or eating with them and NEVER look at them. Then they let down their guard and talked and talked…

My almost 8 year old is on the cusp of this and it is really scary…

By: Do things ever stay the same? « Mommom’s Garden

Do things ever stay the same? « Mommom’s Garden — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 23:58:49 +0000

[...] things ever stay the same? So a post on Change over at Segullah prompted the thought. Surely not in my house, and not for the foreseeable [...]

By: Justine

Justine — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 22:24:30 +0000

I never understand why I’m so surprised when things start changing. Change is the only thing I can count on happening. Yet it takes me by surprise every time…

By: mormonhermitmom

mormonhermitmom — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 18:43:15 +0000

I hear you loud and clear. My oldest is that age too. Unfortunately, she doesn’t have friends like your son. She struggles with carrying a conversation. She has a communication disorder which makes it difficult for her to organize her thoughts. But in other ways she is very much like your son. She wants to talk to me at night when the other kids aren’t around. She wants to be so grown up so badly. I’m glad she is maturing, scared for what middle school will bring, and sad that I can’t relate to her in the same way I used to. And to think I cried when she went off to kindergarten!