Thanks for the comments, everybody.

The 180 helps too. A year or so ago I realized the best thing to do in any given situation is usually the exact opposite of what I want to do at first. The trick is getting myself to do the 180 when I really, really, really want to go full speed ahead.

I get angrier about things if I am hungry or tired or pms-y too. Fast sunday falls right on my PMS week for a good part of the year it seems like. Those are tough Sundays. I usually just try to say as little as possible and pray for the best. Oh, and I also get really really snippy if we are running late to something. You’d think I would realize that getting angry won’t make anyone go faster, or the lights turn green, but I guess I’m still learning!

A friend of mine once talked about a fight at their house and how everyone got sent to their rooms. She even mentioned that her husband sent her to her room. Just the thought of that still makes me laugh. Although if someone sent me to my room I’d curl up with a good book and read until I fell asleep.

We do have one teenage son who doesn’t get it. He wants an argument resolved immediately. That makes for interesting times. Because he wants to continue talking until there’s a resolution. And that doesn’t work. At least not for dh and I. Most times we just keep repeating over and over and over, I’m not discussing this any longer right now. In fact he didn’t understand recently when I didn’t try to argue when dh was obviously angry about something. He thought I wasn’t sticking up for myself. How to help him understand that dh and I would and did talk when we could actually hear each other?

As far as physical triggers? And our whole family struggles with tempers flairing when we’re hungry. We know better than to have a charged discussion right after church as well. Everyone needs to have lunch and just chill and then we’ll have discussions.

My sons will also be very well versed in dealing with a hormonal woman. Both my dd and I struggle with this. And recently mine has been evolving. It took me a bit before I realized that yes indeed I was beginning to experience menopause (hellooo hot flashes!).

Tempers are tricky. And just when I think I’ve got it all figured out another element gets added! Go Figure! Isn’t being Human amazing!

I hope I’m not making him sound horrible. He’s a good guy.

Yelling is so horrid, I had a Dad that did the scary yell and I swore I’d never do it. But then I hear myself and wonder how horrid I must look with my crazy banshee yell and it makes me sick. Sometimes I feel like my apologies to the kiddos are insincere because I continue to have the yelling problem. I do really have remorse and want to do better but a few days later I need to apologize again. Oh perfection you are so very distant….

I do sometimes get cranky, usually a blood sugar or hormonal thing, but my temperament isn’t a “the world is going to pay for my bad mood” kind of temperament. I can recognize that it’s hormonal or I need to sleep or whatever and usually not take it out on people around me.

My husband is the acting out type, I’m the acting in type.