Comments on: Giving back http://segullah.org/daily-special/giving-back/ Mormon women blogging about the peculiar and the treasured Thu, 09 Feb 2012 10:50:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: lee http://segullah.org/daily-special/giving-back/#comment-142080 lee Tue, 12 May 2009 17:07:21 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=3006#comment-142080 Excellent essay, you nailed the ending. Excellent essay, you nailed the ending.

]]> By: Kathryn Soper http://segullah.org/daily-special/giving-back/#comment-142055 Kathryn Soper Tue, 12 May 2009 14:08:38 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=3006#comment-142055 jendoops--I did feel the debt even as a kid. That didn't stop me from being a real pill, however. ;) Merry Michelle, yes. Well said. What strikes me most about my mother is how her good intentions and earnest love outweigh the mistakes she made. We had a very difficult family dynamic. My mom did the best she could, but that wasn't enough to prevent significant pain. Still, the desires of her heart were such that even as I've struggled to process what she did wrong--and some of these missteps were BIG--I can't forget what she did right. That's my hope as a mother, that my kids can say, "Even though she really screws up, I know she loves me." jendoops–I did feel the debt even as a kid. That didn’t stop me from being a real pill, however. ;)

Merry Michelle, yes. Well said.

What strikes me most about my mother is how her good intentions and earnest love outweigh the mistakes she made. We had a very difficult family dynamic. My mom did the best she could, but that wasn’t enough to prevent significant pain. Still, the desires of her heart were such that even as I’ve struggled to process what she did wrong–and some of these missteps were BIG–I can’t forget what she did right. That’s my hope as a mother, that my kids can say, “Even though she really screws up, I know she loves me.”

]]> By: Merry Michelle http://segullah.org/daily-special/giving-back/#comment-142045 Merry Michelle Tue, 12 May 2009 13:06:58 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=3006#comment-142045 It sounds like you had quite a mother, or quite a clear understanding of her life long sacrifice for you--or both. This was beautifully written and so vivid. I want to be a mother as full of love as the one you described. Isn't it wonderful that some love is so free and available that even though we want so much to give back--it is not a requirement for it to be there? It sounds like you had quite a mother, or quite a clear understanding of her life long sacrifice for you–or both.

This was beautifully written and so vivid. I want to be a mother as full of love as the one you described. Isn’t it wonderful that some love is so free and available that even though we want so much to give back–it is not a requirement for it to be there?

]]> By: jendoop http://segullah.org/daily-special/giving-back/#comment-142036 jendoop Tue, 12 May 2009 11:32:55 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=3006#comment-142036 This was so good, but bitter sweet. Did you really feel so indebted to your mother all those years?I don't remember feeling that guilt until after I had children and comprehended more fully all my mother had done for me. Until then I was a bottomless pit, without much conscience or end of need. Now I feel it, overwhelmingly so. To the point that spending Mothers Day with her this year felt awkward - as if I should not revel in the day, being a mother myself, but only give all homage to her. This was so good, but bitter sweet. Did you really feel so indebted to your mother all those years?I don’t remember feeling that guilt until after I had children and comprehended more fully all my mother had done for me. Until then I was a bottomless pit, without much conscience or end of need. Now I feel it, overwhelmingly so. To the point that spending Mothers Day with her this year felt awkward – as if I should not revel in the day, being a mother myself, but only give all homage to her.

]]> By: Tori http://segullah.org/daily-special/giving-back/#comment-141842 Tori Mon, 11 May 2009 05:34:21 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=3006#comment-141842 Wow. I've got tears! What a lovely tribute. Wow. I’ve got tears! What a lovely tribute.

]]> By: al http://segullah.org/daily-special/giving-back/#comment-141812 al Mon, 11 May 2009 01:35:39 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=3006#comment-141812 This was touching. Among all the generic quotes and stories I've heard today...this was what I wanted to hear, what I wanted to feel. Thank you. This was touching. Among all the generic quotes and stories I’ve heard today…this was what I wanted to hear, what I wanted to feel.

Thank you.

]]> By: Kim http://segullah.org/daily-special/giving-back/#comment-141790 Kim Sun, 10 May 2009 21:10:37 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=3006#comment-141790 That was beautiful--thank you. That was beautiful–thank you.

]]> By: Mom in the Mountains http://segullah.org/daily-special/giving-back/#comment-141762 Mom in the Mountains Sun, 10 May 2009 16:31:35 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=3006#comment-141762 This was beautiful! Thank you This was beautiful! Thank you

]]> By: Maralise http://segullah.org/daily-special/giving-back/#comment-141752 Maralise Sun, 10 May 2009 14:48:38 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=3006#comment-141752 lovely dear. so lovely. lovely dear. so lovely.

]]> By: anonymous http://segullah.org/daily-special/giving-back/#comment-141713 anonymous Sun, 10 May 2009 07:18:33 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=3006#comment-141713 I want to read this to my best friend. Happy Mother's Day. I want to read this to my best friend. Happy Mother’s Day.

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