It’s My Turn

it's my turn

Have you ever wondered if you’re so caught up in your own vision, your own emotions, and your own story that truth eludes and perspective dims?  I was recently talking to two colleagues about situations that cause confusion, questioning, and mini identity crises in life. We decided it would be nice if there could be a voice over only you could hear, just like the movies, where the commanding voice of James Earl Jones, or the trusting accent of Emma Thompson, would chime in and talk to us. The voice would just solve a problem for you, tell you if someone was telling the truth, shed some tough love and light on to your situation, or even let you know if you were being a big old jerk.  As we sat discussing this lovely option, my friend said sometime that resonated.

It was my narration moment from the big voice in the sky pausing reality for a moment and saying: “Jennie – this one’s for you”.  In response to my friend’s annoyance about being part of a seemingly unpleasant committee, my other friend said, “you know, sometimes it’s just your turn”. It was so simple, but made so much sense. I know we have narration, the Holy Ghost, and the light inside that sparks and illuminates when someone says what we are meant to hear. Those words became my stop action moment of certainty. She went on to say that another colleague had told her that same phrase in response to a minor car accident.  When people were saying how unfair and what a pain that must have been, she simply said, “ya, but it was just my turn”.  Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think there’s a great big score board in the sky, but the simultaneous chaos and order involved in our world forces us to take our turn. Sometimes it’s divine and other times it’s not, but regardless, growth always can rise from the ashes.  The undesirable calling, the committee assignment, the frustrating family situations come to us, and for some reason saying “it’s my turn” seems to remind me it’s not forever, it may not be enjoyable, but this is what you need to do now.

It was my turn to sit and listen that day.  I thought of my own burdens on my shoulders and knew that it is my turn.  Turns don’t last forever, and I would rather have my narrator say well done, at the end of the turn than the voice in my head and heart think I wasted an opportunity.  Taking your turn often is rewarding to you in the end.  The growth required, the new faces to meet, and maybe even the heartache that may come with taking your turn leaves you the beneficiary.

How do you interpret this idea?  What are some turns in which you love or struggle? How does Ecclesiastes 3 fit into this concept?

About Jennie L

(Prose Board) is from Salt Lake. Teaching high school English has taught her many things, including how to sing the parts of speech, and break up hall fights, but perhaps most important, spending her days with words and writing continually reinforces their power. Give her a beach, some dark chocolate, friends and family and she'll be one happy girl.

7 thoughts on “It’s My Turn

  1. “It’s my turn” is a much healthier outlook than “Why me?” for sure. And true. We all have bad/unpleasant/uncomfortable/painful things happen in our lives. No one is immune, so I really like responding with “It’s my turn” rather than feeling like you’re being singled out for bad that no one else has happen to them.

    And Ecclesiastes 3 has always been one of my favorites — particularly after becoming a mother of young children.

  2. life happens is another way to put acceptance of the happenings of our life. I loved the thought that sometimes it is my turn to listen and support others. We called that being gracious in the day. Graciousness remembers it isn’t all about you and sometime it is your turn , and life happens and this is just your turn not a forever things. another platitude of wisdom, don’t sweat the small stuff.

  3. We were talking in rs yesterday about an Elder Maxwell talk in which he talks about the “chores of the kingdom” – Necessary parts of church service that aren’t always the most fun but still have to be done. I liked that phrase.

  4. The lovely message about taking your turn can only be written by someone who is young. Someone who has not yet found herself in the same situation more than once. Some people have turns doing things they like and other people don’t.

    Hopefully whatever turn we get and no matter how long it lasts we will learn and grow from it.

  5. I never thought of taking turns with the negative or hard things. My life has always been waiting for my turn. Waiting to be a wife. Waiting to be a mom. Even waiting for a much needed change in a calling. My waiting has been rewarded with wonderful things but it is a hard journey. So much learning and tests of faith have happened in the times when it is not my turn.

  6. Great views of this phrase ladies!

    Strollerblader- I thought that same thing – about “why me” (which is the usual wording in my head). I’m going to try and make it “it’s my turn” when applicable.

    Jennifer- graciousness in the day. I love that. Like a lot. :)

    Rachel- I’m not familiar with that talk, but if it’s coming from Maxwell I know it’s a good one. Chores in my Kindom.

    Yvonne – I’m sure turns get weary. They already are and I am still “young”. I best buckle up and keep on trotting along.

    Becky- I almost addressed this idea of waiting for my turn. I too feel like I’ve been waiting for marriage and motherhood. I suppose that is the other side of the coin:)

  7. Elder Maxwell’s talk is “I Will Arise and Go to My Father”, Sept. 1993. Thankyou for this great insight. Definitely we get our turns more than once, not only in challenges but also blessings, tender mercies and opportunities to become more like our Savior.

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