I’m going to make this short:
Don’t give yourself a hard time about having a hard time when you’re having a hard time.
All of us have hard times. And hard times are hard for at least two reasons: the hard thing that’s happening is hard in and of itself, plus it’s also hard to realize that that hard things happen to you just like they happen to everyone else. But strangely enough, many of us get very disappointed in ourselves when we have a hard time with our hard time. And so we make things even harder by telling ourselves it shouldn’t be so hard.
Hard things are hard enough already. We hardly need to make them harder. So please, don’t.
(And if you just can’t help it, then at least don’t give yourself a hard time about giving yourself a hard time when you’re having a hard time. Enough is enough.)