Despite her best efforts fasting, praying, and nagging nudging, Brother Seymore just isn’t leading spiritually like Sally was hoping! In fact, it’s gotten worse! Brother S. doesn’t want to attend church. He’s started looking at anti-Mormon literature on the internet. Sally has to struggle to get 5 kids, including a toddler, ready for church every Sunday by herself. She has started having FHE and family scripture study without Brother S. She is worried her 13-year-old son, who not long ago began passing the sacrament, is now becoming cynical under his father’s tutelage. Brother S. isn’t actively antagonistic about Sally taking the kids to church (yet), or doing church things. But he isn’t proactive either.
By any other measurement, Brother Seymore is a great father. He attends the kids’ ball games, back to school nights, and piano recitals. He is also a great husband. Sally and her husband have date night every Friday. On some of these dates Sally pressures him to go back to the temple. He pressures Sally to listen to logic and at least consider some of the things he’s just found out about Joseph Smith. Sally is genuinely worried about the future, not just on earth, but in heaven. This is not what she signed up for. She had dreams of going on a mission with her husband when they retired. She still has dreams of exaltation, husband and children by her side.
1. Talk to the Bishop. It’s his job to guide and direct. He will be able to help.
2. Consider divorce. There is a temple worthy priesthood holder out there just waiting to marry her and help raise her 5 children in the gospel.
3. Keep nudging him along. It’ll all work out in the end.
4. Be happy for what she has. Work around it and accept that Sam might never change–and truly be ok with that.
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