Comments on: The Know-It-All http://segullah.org/segullah-article-discussions/the-know-it-all-one-womans-humble-quest-to-become-um-something-other-than-what-she-used-to-be/ Mormon women blogging about the peculiar and the treasured Thu, 24 May 2012 09:13:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Virtual Oases, November 9 « The Exponent http://segullah.org/segullah-article-discussions/the-know-it-all-one-womans-humble-quest-to-become-um-something-other-than-what-she-used-to-be/#comment-114097 Virtual Oases, November 9 « The Exponent Sun, 09 Nov 2008 22:36:14 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=1371#comment-114097 [...] Maralise:  What do we mean when we say, “I know the Church is true?” [...] [...] Maralise:  What do we mean when we say, “I know the Church is true?” [...]

]]> By: Ruth http://segullah.org/segullah-article-discussions/the-know-it-all-one-womans-humble-quest-to-become-um-something-other-than-what-she-used-to-be/#comment-113657 Ruth Fri, 07 Nov 2008 02:01:50 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=1371#comment-113657 Thank you for such an inspiring post. There was a time when I was certain I knew so much. And then I was brought to my knees, ripped to my core (by my own actions mind you) and realized I knew nothing. Rebuilding took years (I will be forever grateful for the support I received.) Today, I am wiser and believe there is little to know but, lots to understand. Two years ago, (has it already been 2 years) my beloved younger brother died. His death was just another reminder that there is nothing to know...only much to believe. Thank you for such an inspiring post.
There was a time when I was certain I knew so much. And then I was brought to my knees, ripped to my core (by my own actions mind you) and realized I knew nothing. Rebuilding took years (I will be forever grateful for the support I received.) Today, I am wiser and believe there is little to know but, lots to understand. Two years ago, (has it already been 2 years) my beloved younger brother died. His death was just another reminder that there is nothing to know…only much to believe.

]]> By: Tracey Wright http://segullah.org/segullah-article-discussions/the-know-it-all-one-womans-humble-quest-to-become-um-something-other-than-what-she-used-to-be/#comment-113614 Tracey Wright Thu, 06 Nov 2008 22:26:26 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=1371#comment-113614 I find it ironic that when we feel so alone in our struggles we can jump on a blog and find immediate connection with women from all walks of life, going through the exact same experiences. It sings peace of mind to my soul that someone else has been at war with their internal dialogue about KNOWING and believing. I have my days where I can only HOPE that I believe and hope that it is enough. I have been the one to defiantly stand and march out of a full chapel with tears dripping off my cheeks giving the person behind the pulpit my disapproval for pronouncing their perfect knowledge. I applaud those who faithfully bear the burdens of life believing, these are my people. I long for the day when I can KNOW but until then I will believe - Fervently, BOLDLY and fiercely! I find it ironic that when we feel so alone in our struggles we can jump on a blog and find immediate connection with women from all walks of life, going through the exact same experiences. It sings peace of mind to my soul that someone else has been at war with their internal dialogue about KNOWING and believing.
I have my days where I can only HOPE that I believe and hope that it is enough. I have been the one to defiantly stand and march out of a full chapel with tears dripping off my cheeks giving the person behind the pulpit my disapproval for pronouncing their perfect knowledge.
I applaud those who faithfully bear the burdens of life believing, these are my people. I long for the day when I can KNOW but until then I will believe – Fervently, BOLDLY and fiercely!

]]> By: lee http://segullah.org/segullah-article-discussions/the-know-it-all-one-womans-humble-quest-to-become-um-something-other-than-what-she-used-to-be/#comment-113498 lee Thu, 06 Nov 2008 07:26:08 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=1371#comment-113498 i have lots of believes. but i do know that sometimes all we can offer is a broken heart and a honest doubts--and God can take those too. i have lots of believes. but i do know that sometimes all we can offer is a broken heart and a honest doubts–and God can take those too.

]]> By: Angela http://segullah.org/segullah-article-discussions/the-know-it-all-one-womans-humble-quest-to-become-um-something-other-than-what-she-used-to-be/#comment-113391 Angela Wed, 05 Nov 2008 14:40:09 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=1371#comment-113391 I simply hope. That's the very best i can do right now. I am not sure how to find my faith so for today, I hope. Love you, Mara I simply hope. That’s the very best i can do right now. I am not sure how to find my faith so for today, I hope. Love you, Mara

]]> By: MStephens http://segullah.org/segullah-article-discussions/the-know-it-all-one-womans-humble-quest-to-become-um-something-other-than-what-she-used-to-be/#comment-113347 MStephens Wed, 05 Nov 2008 03:55:57 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=1371#comment-113347 I had a crash-and-burn this year too, and let me tell you, it was so painful! I came out realizing I had been too arrogant. Not arrogant in knowing, but arrogant in thinking I had it all under control and it was all me. I started doubting myself and second-guessing my spiritual impressions. That led to hard-heartedness. And thank heaven I had enough discernment to know what was wrong with me, even if I couldn't fix it on my own. I had to pray for a soft heart and Heavenly Father put me in a situation where I would be humbled to the dust and have to depend on Him. I think that the crash-and-burn experience comes out of over-zealousness, because there is a certain amount of pride at the bottom of it. Having crashed and burned, I know I can never be so utterly secure and complacent and sure of myself and my own righteousness again. Life seems more spiritually dangerous. I need God more. And the gospel is as true as it ever was. I had a crash-and-burn this year too, and let me tell you, it was so painful! I came out realizing I had been too arrogant. Not arrogant in knowing, but arrogant in thinking I had it all under control and it was all me. I started doubting myself and second-guessing my spiritual impressions. That led to hard-heartedness. And thank heaven I had enough discernment to know what was wrong with me, even if I couldn’t fix it on my own. I had to pray for a soft heart and Heavenly Father put me in a situation where I would be humbled to the dust and have to depend on Him.

I think that the crash-and-burn experience comes out of over-zealousness, because there is a certain amount of pride at the bottom of it. Having crashed and burned, I know I can never be so utterly secure and complacent and sure of myself and my own righteousness again. Life seems more spiritually dangerous. I need God more. And the gospel is as true as it ever was.

]]> By: Leisha http://segullah.org/segullah-article-discussions/the-know-it-all-one-womans-humble-quest-to-become-um-something-other-than-what-she-used-to-be/#comment-113330 Leisha Wed, 05 Nov 2008 01:41:00 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=1371#comment-113330 I needed to read this. I have felt a strong need to slip into the background of church. I've been the gung-ho out in front "Perfectionist President of Everything" and I'm very tired and I have a lot of doubts to work through and your post and all the warm and enlightening comments made me feel better about that. Thank you! I needed to read this. I have felt a strong need to slip into the background of church. I’ve been the gung-ho out in front “Perfectionist President of Everything” and I’m very tired and I have a lot of doubts to work through and your post and all the warm and enlightening comments made me feel better about that. Thank you!

]]> By: Nicole http://segullah.org/segullah-article-discussions/the-know-it-all-one-womans-humble-quest-to-become-um-something-other-than-what-she-used-to-be/#comment-113278 Nicole Tue, 04 Nov 2008 18:54:50 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=1371#comment-113278 I love this post. I have been battling to keep myself centered on Christ and not be pushed off by my righteous desire for my husband to "know" the gospel is true. I think I have been blessed with faith, and I have used that faith to propel my actions, but we are all experiencing opposition and I have had a hard time seeing clearly lately. I "know" but I don't always act what I know because I don't see clearly what the knowing means. I don't fully understand all the ramification of what I "know". My eyes are constantly being opened to these things and my perspective is under constant construction. I love this post. I have been battling to keep myself centered on Christ and not be pushed off by my righteous desire for my husband to “know” the gospel is true. I think I have been blessed with faith, and I have used that faith to propel my actions, but we are all experiencing opposition and I have had a hard time seeing clearly lately. I “know” but I don’t always act what I know because I don’t see clearly what the knowing means. I don’t fully understand all the ramification of what I “know”. My eyes are constantly being opened to these things and my perspective is under constant construction.

]]> By: maralise http://segullah.org/segullah-article-discussions/the-know-it-all-one-womans-humble-quest-to-become-um-something-other-than-what-she-used-to-be/#comment-113261 maralise Tue, 04 Nov 2008 17:02:57 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=1371#comment-113261 Thank you all so much for your comments. I've been stewing over this post since I posted it and hearing your responses has helped ease my mind. AND I've been spiritually fed by your comments. Thank you so much for being willing to share your beliefs. I identify with so much of what you've said. from Cheryl: "I know I have had spiritual promptings and experiences that I can never deny; I know when I do my best to follow the doctrines and teachings of the Gospel my life is better; I know I’m not perfect; I know I have much more to learn." YES! Me too! In fact, you saying that has helped me remember the one 'know' that I have. And that is that I know that Heavenly Father loves me. Knows me. I have relied on that 'know' through so many rough times. And I'm grateful for the tender mercy that it is to me. From Courtney: "I like thinking that the opposite of faith is not doubt, but rather having faith is accepting the fact that you do doubt, and you’re ok with it." Exactly. I'm OK with my doubts and I've found that through faith and action they are placed in greater perspective. In other words, I'm not willing to throw out the baby with the bathwater when it comes to my belief in the church and my participation with it. La Yen--I love hearing your words and I am so grateful that some have that spiritual gift. And I wish my kids were in your primary. ;) Wendy: "Sometimes, though, when I find myself thinking, “I only believe this and such,” the Spirit reminds me, “No, you KNOW that one.” " I had that experience as I read everyone's comments. I was so heartened to remember the things I do know. And let me just comment that I don't think believing is a 'lesser state of knowledge.' I feel that my testimony and my faith is just as vibrant and active now as it used to be. My secret is that I have found believing so fulfilling that I'm scared for the day when I will know (even though I'm looking forward to it too). I have loved learning how to believe again. Thank you again for your comments! PS: Michelle--I haven't given up yet! Although I'm sure my German teacher might be ready to give up on me. ;) Thank you all so much for your comments. I’ve been stewing over this post since I posted it and hearing your responses has helped ease my mind.

AND I’ve been spiritually fed by your comments. Thank you so much for being willing to share your beliefs. I identify with so much of what you’ve said.

from Cheryl: “I know I have had spiritual promptings and experiences that I can never deny; I know when I do my best to follow the doctrines and teachings of the Gospel my life is better; I know I’m not perfect; I know I have much more to learn.”

YES! Me too! In fact, you saying that has helped me remember the one ‘know’ that I have. And that is that I know that Heavenly Father loves me. Knows me. I have relied on that ‘know’ through so many rough times. And I’m grateful for the tender mercy that it is to me.

From Courtney: “I like thinking that the opposite of faith is not doubt, but rather having faith is accepting the fact that you do doubt, and you’re ok with it.”

Exactly. I’m OK with my doubts and I’ve found that through faith and action they are placed in greater perspective. In other words, I’m not willing to throw out the baby with the bathwater when it comes to my belief in the church and my participation with it.

La Yen–I love hearing your words and I am so grateful that some have that spiritual gift. And I wish my kids were in your primary. ;)

Wendy: “Sometimes, though, when I find myself thinking, “I only believe this and such,” the Spirit reminds me, “No, you KNOW that one.” ”

I had that experience as I read everyone’s comments. I was so heartened to remember the things I do know.

And let me just comment that I don’t think believing is a ‘lesser state of knowledge.’ I feel that my testimony and my faith is just as vibrant and active now as it used to be. My secret is that I have found believing so fulfilling that I’m scared for the day when I will know (even though I’m looking forward to it too). I have loved learning how to believe again.

Thank you again for your comments!

PS: Michelle–I haven’t given up yet! Although I’m sure my German teacher might be ready to give up on me. ;)

]]> By: Angie http://segullah.org/segullah-article-discussions/the-know-it-all-one-womans-humble-quest-to-become-um-something-other-than-what-she-used-to-be/#comment-113253 Angie Tue, 04 Nov 2008 15:35:15 +0000 http://segullah.org/?p=1371#comment-113253 One more thought - our struggle to figure out our religious and spiritual beliefs is so valuable to our children!!! We will be able to guide them through this murky, ambiguous world, because we have had to navigate it, too. One more thought – our struggle to figure out our religious and spiritual beliefs is so valuable to our children!!! We will be able to guide them through this murky, ambiguous world, because we have had to navigate it, too.

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