Comments on: Did I really just say that? http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/ Mormon women blogging about the peculiar and the treasured Thu, 09 Feb 2012 22:01:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Mark http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-69433 Mark Thu, 13 Mar 2008 15:27:47 +0000 http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-69433 Once early on in my teaching career, I told my 6th-grade band to 'sit down and shut up', but in a nice way. They erupted! They were chanting, "Office! Office!" as if I needed to be sent to the principle. I was astonished. I had no idea that I had done anything so horrible. It was OK for them to be little hooligans ALL the time, but let the teacher loose it just a little just once, and you would think that I had beat them all with a stick! That is one of many reason why I got out of teaching. Once early on in my teaching career, I told my 6th-grade band to ‘sit down and shut up’, but in a nice way. They erupted! They were chanting, “Office! Office!” as if I needed to be sent to the principle. I was astonished. I had no idea that I had done anything so horrible. It was OK for them to be little hooligans ALL the time, but let the teacher loose it just a little just once, and you would think that I had beat them all with a stick! That is one of many reason why I got out of teaching.

]]> By: Claudia http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-47216 Claudia Tue, 22 Jan 2008 17:46:26 +0000 http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-47216 La Yen: More power to you. I wouldn't want to be in your shoes. A YW's leader can be the best thing that happens to our giirls. There is at least one out there that I will always be grateful to. La Yen: More power to you. I wouldn’t want to be in your shoes. A YW’s leader can be the best thing that happens to our giirls. There is at least one out there that I will always be grateful to.

]]> By: Azucar http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-46866 Azucar Mon, 21 Jan 2008 21:53:40 +0000 http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-46866 Sometimes, the girls need to hear 'cram it' or 'knock it off' or 'aren't your toes freezing in those flip-flops you wore to church?' I stand by you, La Yen. Sometimes, the girls need to hear ‘cram it’ or ‘knock it off’ or ‘aren’t your toes freezing in those flip-flops you wore to church?’ I stand by you, La Yen.

]]> By: Barb http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-46798 Barb Mon, 21 Jan 2008 18:28:24 +0000 http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-46798 Annegb, I know some parents of very verbal children who can relate. Rowan is so cute! I have been told that when I was a toddler and not talking much yet, my dad was talking in the next room and I think being loud. I was sitting with my older brother and called out, "Shut up, Da." My paternal grandma thought it was so funny, thankfully. Annegb, I know some parents of very verbal children who can relate. Rowan is so cute!

I have been told that when I was a toddler and not talking much yet, my dad was talking in the next room and I think being loud. I was sitting with my older brother and called out, “Shut up, Da.” My paternal grandma thought it was so funny, thankfully.

]]> By: La Yen http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-46773 La Yen Mon, 21 Jan 2008 16:47:20 +0000 http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-46773 Um, I guess I need to clarify that I rolled my eyes inward at my YW president and not at my girls. Because I would not want it thought that I was contemptuous toward my girls. Because even though they were contemptuous, at times, towards Personal Progress, Mutual, Boys, Leaders, Other Girls, the Bishopric, the Church, and The Savior, I was never contemptuous towards them--and NEVER told them to shut up. Just to cram it. And only with love and a smile. (So please don't call social services on me.) Um, I guess I need to clarify that I rolled my eyes inward at my YW president and not at my girls. Because I would not want it thought that I was contemptuous toward my girls. Because even though they were contemptuous, at times, towards Personal Progress, Mutual, Boys, Leaders, Other Girls, the Bishopric, the Church, and The Savior, I was never contemptuous towards them–and NEVER told them to shut up. Just to cram it. And only with love and a smile. (So please don’t call social services on me.)

]]> By: Claudia http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-46760 Claudia Mon, 21 Jan 2008 16:11:58 +0000 http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-46760 It especially important to learn to be polite right now when so many of the social graces have been forgotten or labeled hypocritical. We never said shut up or encouraged our kids to say it. Of course it isn't a bad word because it is dirty, but because it is impolite and usually accompanies a show of temper. Sometimes a show is all that is needed to achieve the desired result. Rolling eyes etc. (#8) Is a show of contempt. Of course, if you add please then that makes it a request rather than a command, and that changes everything. It especially important to learn to be polite right now when so many of the social graces have been forgotten or labeled hypocritical. We never said shut up or encouraged our kids to say it.

Of course it isn’t a bad word because it is dirty, but because it is impolite and usually accompanies a show of temper. Sometimes a show is all that is needed to achieve the desired result. Rolling eyes etc. (#8) Is a show of contempt.

Of course, if you add please then that makes it a request rather than a command, and that changes everything.

]]> By: Azúcar http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-46674 Azúcar Mon, 21 Jan 2008 09:46:00 +0000 http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-46674 Well, there's always a call for being polite, especially if you want to tell someone to cram it. Well, there’s always a call for being polite, especially if you want to tell someone to cram it.

]]> By: Kate http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-46583 Kate Mon, 21 Jan 2008 03:32:03 +0000 http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-46583 I sometimes say shut up in my brain to my three-year-old son who has a rather loud decibel and is only quiet when asleep or watching Thomas. However, the incessant noise made for a fun story: Soon after Christmas this same son came up to my husband with a blanket wrapped around a toy and said, "Dad, I'm Santa. I have a present for you. What do you want for Christmas?" My husband replied, "I want some peace and quiet." Santa thought for a split second and, opening the package, said, "We don't have any of that, but you can have this train!" I sometimes say shut up in my brain to my three-year-old son who has a rather loud decibel and is only quiet when asleep or watching Thomas. However, the incessant noise made for a fun story:
Soon after Christmas this same son came up to my husband with a blanket wrapped around a toy and said, “Dad, I’m Santa. I have a present for you. What do you want for Christmas?” My husband replied, “I want some peace and quiet.” Santa thought for a split second and, opening the package, said, “We don’t have any of that, but you can have this train!”

]]> By: La Yen http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-46573 La Yen Mon, 21 Jan 2008 02:58:44 +0000 http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-46573 When I was in the YW presidency I was told, by my president, that I needed to stop telling the girls to "cram it." But, seriously, they needed to cram it. So I substituted "zip it" and "shut your cake hole" and rolled my eyes. And it was not the same. When I was in the YW presidency I was told, by my president, that I needed to stop telling the girls to “cram it.” But, seriously, they needed to cram it. So I substituted “zip it” and “shut your cake hole” and rolled my eyes. And it was not the same.

]]> By: Maralise http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-46449 Maralise Sun, 20 Jan 2008 21:46:48 +0000 http://segullah.org/slice-of-life/did-i-really-just-say-that/#comment-46449 PD of E: Yea, shut up wasn't a bad word in our house growing up. We reserved scorn for the more serious non-niceties that I will not name. I guess one could make the argument that shut up is not a great word to use because it's a disrespectful way of asking someone to be quiet. I don't know, I don't really care if that word is used and I use it myself. But there does seem to be some logic in discouraging it (like when my kids turn it back on me and I want to hang them upside down from the ceiling and find someone on the street to take over their mothering). But, hey, that's just me. Dalene--love it. motherhood rocks, no? PD of E: Yea, shut up wasn’t a bad word in our house growing up. We reserved scorn for the more serious non-niceties that I will not name. I guess one could make the argument that shut up is not a great word to use because it’s a disrespectful way of asking someone to be quiet. I don’t know, I don’t really care if that word is used and I use it myself. But there does seem to be some logic in discouraging it (like when my kids turn it back on me and I want to hang them upside down from the ceiling and find someone on the street to take over their mothering). But, hey, that’s just me.

Dalene–love it. motherhood rocks, no?

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