Comments on: Well, I really want to be married.

By: Johnna

Johnna — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 05:51:47 +0000

Hi Savanna, I’m the webmaster here. I’ll see if I can get your email address to Sheryl.

By: Savanna

Savanna — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 02:01:01 +0000

Hi Sheryl! I am doing TFA as well, but in Miami, and I’m with you Email me–I’m trying to build an unofficial LDS TFA network.

By: Lisa S

Lisa S — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 00:31:12 +0000

I agree 100% with the previous poster. I am 54 and married..but only for the last 20 years. I grew up in the church being in young women’s in the late 60′s and early 70′s. The leadership never taught us to prepare for a career and when marriage comes along, it does..They only taught us to prepare for a temple marriage, period. I had wished that when I was young they would have asked the question,”What are you going to do with your life if you don’t get married till you are 34 years old?” When I was twenty I thought I would be at least married by the time I was 24..4 years seemed like a long enough time to meet someone and get married…but no 24 came and went and so did 25, so by the time I was 26 1/2 yrs, I served a mission. Returning at 28 I figured at 29 or 30 I would marry…..no, it wouldn’t be until I had graduated college….and then the next month I met him and then by May of the next year we married and then the next year he had our first daughter.
So what can I say to you? Be happy with who you are, live the gospel the best way you can.. Maybe you won’t get married until you are 34…so what are you going to do with your life?
By the way my husband is 6 years younger than me and we met at a single adult dance…even though I had said that I wouldn’t marry anyone I met at a dance.
I new the night I met him that this was the man I would marry. I was ready and so was he.

By: Traveler

Traveler — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 22:14:21 +0000

I have a difference of opinion that doesn’t follow the norm. I have been single all my life. I am 50 years old. Each decade of life brings a different perspective on singleness. Most (with exceptions) single women are in the service industry. That’s something to ponder which we do a lot. It becomes easier as you age to be single. The times I cried over not being married could fill a lake. But I also see how many divorces there are and can see one reason for it (not all). Many get so panicky to marry that they don’t take the time to know themselves or the one they marry and then it’s too late. With time the pat answers ” Oh, you’ll receive the blessing of marriage in the next life”, “Marriage is not all that great”, “you must really be too picky”. and on the list goes. Don’t stop developing your talents and knowledge and putting you life on pause for something that may not happen. Be happy with yourself and a wonderful man will see that. It does get tiring when asked about your kids or if you have a husband. But I also see that I’m better off than a lot of other people. If your doing your best that’s what the Lord ask of you.

By: just wanted to say

just wanted to say — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 01:04:08 +0000

Hey- I appreciated your post, my situation is of being 40/single,etc. I truly relate to much of what you feel and want.

But just wanted to say you might want to edit the lines (though you meant it in humor) about sis Dew. Each year a sis goes single it can get harder..I don’t know Sis Dew or her feelings on this deeply personal matter..ie if she would think it is funny or if she would feel hurt. Sis Dew is an awesome sis to emulate in many ways.

anyway- glad you got such great comments/support but just wanted to encourage you to consider that statement.

By: JDD

JDD — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 07:33:52 +0000

For those who are interested, I researched the quote Katie cited. It really needs to be understood in the proper context. I openly acknowledge that some racist statements have been made in the past, but I don’t think Kimball’s quote is one of them, based on the context. I posted my response here: http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/daughter_mixed_race_couple_left_ENG_270.php#kimball_quote

I’m trying to repent of my hijacking ways…

By: Bro. Jones

Bro. Jones — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 20:16:05 +0000

#44 said, “I don’t know what Sheryl’s feeling is about dating outside of the church, but searching for a mate outside the church seems to be the wrong place to be looking.

And a little risky — what if they never join? what if it causes division, agony in what you hoped would be a happy marriage? what if that eternal marriage you wanted is sacrificed because you start to fall away?”

Oh believe me, dating (and marrying) outside the church was not a topic I approached lightly. There was much prayer involved before and during, and I consistently got a clear “nudge” from the Spirit that I was moving in the right direction. It may not work for everyone, but I’d encourage people to at least pray about interfaith dating.

By: Rachael

Rachael — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 03:02:24 +0000

Sheryl,

When it comes to eternity, we want to be united with a man that can take us all the way. Not that we expect perfection, but we want a fella that’s trying his best! That includes actively seeking to follow the big EM commandment. Where do those guys hang out? Until I meet someone ready for a matrimonial adventure, I’ll just keep myself open and continue to develop myself.
(As it appears you are doing also)

(All this is from a gal living in Salt Lake, too! It’s rough out there!)

By: Katherine

Katherine — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 01:46:02 +0000

I don’t want to keep hijacking this entry, so please just e-mail me for anything else, but the quote I’m referring to is this:

“We recommend that people marry those who are of the same racial background generally, and of somewhat the same economic and social and educational background (some of those are not an absolute necessity, but preferred), and above all, the same religious background, without question” (“Marriage and Divorce,” in 1976 Devotional Speeches of the Year [Provo: Brigham Young University Press, 1977], p. 144).
LDS.org – Aaronic Priesthood Chapter Detail – Choosing an Eternal Companion
Source: http://www.lds.org
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
Source: http://www.lds.org
In \”The Living Christ: The Testimony of the Apostles,\” modern-day prophets and apostles bear witness of the divinity of our Savior Jesus Christ. You can also learn more at JesusChrist.lds.org.

I recognize that it’s from before the Priesthood Revelation, but it’s still published in new material.

By: creole wisdom

creole wisdom — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 01:38:48 +0000

I don’t want to keep hijacking this entry, so please just e-mail me for anything else, but the quote I’m referring to is this:

Katherine Harris
June 12 at 9:23am
So here is the quote. As a person who is the product of an interracial marriage, has dated people outside of my race, and see great/wonderful relationships/marriages with couples of different backgrounds this quote is hurtful in today’s modern context. I understand that it was written in the 70s, and I agree with it from that era- but why is it still being printed and taught? I thought all people were created equal in the eyes of God, and that all it took to have a good marriage was for two people to be active, faithful members of the church who marry in the Temple? Confusing! Saddening!

I recognize that it’s from before the Priesthood Revelation, but it’s still published in new material.