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Can Toner Change Your Life? + A Few Other Suggestions

By Sandra Clark

That might seem like a funny title to talk about trust and testimonials, but it’s totally true.

A few years ago I read “It’s time to use toner.” Even though I’ve probably read that elsewhere plenty of times and the dauntingly large beauty aisles at the drugstore would lead me to believe I need all the products- I just never did. But that particular post came from someone I trust. So this last year, I finally did.

And ho-leee cow. That trust was well placed. Adding toner has changed my life- the pores on my face visibly shrunk after using it (almost) daily for a week. A week! Never mind the bottle sat in my bathroom cupboard for almost a year until I finally got to it. But, but, but- I did. I stared at it long enough and remembered what the trusted person had said about it. Her words finally propelled me to crack open the bottle. Bless them.

Ditto that with recommendations and blessings for friends and such people I like, follow, and trust for new music, glass water bottles, electric throw blankets, menstrual cups, and Straus Creamery ice cream (the mint chocolate is a revelation- even if you’ve been bored with the flavor for 2 decades).  Things that seemed weird, unnecessary, or goofy (or I was just feel swamped by options) were opened to me because someone I trusted pointed me to them.

Thinking about how it works took me back to Malcolm Gladwell’s The Tipping Point.

“When people are overwhelmed with information and develop immunity to traditional forms of communication, they turn instead for advice and information to the people in their lives whom they respect, admire, and trust. The cure for immunity is finding“When people are overwhelmed with information and develop immunity to traditional forms of communication, they turn instead for advice and information to the people in their lives whom they respect, admire, and trust. The cure for immunity is finding Mavens, Connectors, and Salesmen.”

Mavens, Connectors, and Salesmen are all personality types identified in the book- but I’ll simplify and say they’re people with advice you can trust.

(Side note- I self-identified as a maven [folks who love to seek out and share knowledge to help others- the person who always has a restaurant recommendation since they keep a mental index of information] when I read it years ago- any other mavens in the audience?)

New ideas included.

I would have never started running barefoot, meditation, or even wearing pants to church (which are the best for teaching junior primary and nursery and cold Januarys so HURRAY for that win for that option for sister missionaries 6/7 days a week) if someone I love and trust hadn’t planted a possibility in my brain.

So, collective wisdom (as I’d like to call all of you) share some of your grassroots ideas below. I’d love to know what’s been your rose witch hazel toner- or at least something worth sharing.

I promise to trust your advice and try out a few and see what sticks.

About Sandra Clark

Sandra Clark Jergensen's writing (most often about food) has been published in Gastronomica, Apartment Therapy, The Exponent, and at Segullah, where she was once the Editor-in-Chief, and now as Features Editor. Sandra geeked out on food and writing as a master's student food studies at University of Texas, Arlington. She makes her home in California where she runs without shoes, foster parents, teaches cooking, develops recipes, and struggles to take pictures with her eyes open, and sometimes all at the same time. She is the owner and creator of thekitchennatural.com.

8 thoughts on “Can Toner Change Your Life? + A Few Other Suggestions”

  1. I hope you get many comments that give us all some new ideas on things that REALLY work. Here are two of mine that I have used again and again. A teaspoon full of peanut butter swallowed in one swallow will take away hiccups. Plain ammonia, straight from the bottle dabbed on a mosquito bite will make the bite stop itching. Happy New Year!

  2. I use the same toner in the cucumber variety, but every other night. On the off nights I use Paula's Choice BHA liquid. Game. Changer.

  3. Maybe everyone else in the world knew these things, but in the past couple of weeks I got fitted for a bra (the wrong size – drastically – for more than 30 years ?) and figured out that instead of plucking out my weird black chin hairs one by one, I could shave them! Why did no one tell me? I feel like standing on my roof and telling everyone in the world that if their boobs are halfway to their knees, they should fix it!

    Thanks, Sandra, for bringing this up. I love real recommendations from real people. (I've never thought about toner, but maybe it's time?)

  4. Whoa. I heard about that stuff elsewhere and sounds like I'll be checking out Paula's offerings too. And I raise you the Peter Roth Thomas Peeling Gel (exfoliator) 2-3 times a week. Even my husband uses it now.

  5. This is excellent. I’ve balked at toner all my life and I will finally go for it! Not to be self-promoting but kind of, just last week I launched a new site called MavenYou, based on the premise that as we learn cool things we should share them, so that others can take them and run. I firmly believe the best way to spark joyful curiosity that so enhances life, comes from great recommendations from trusted friends. Make this a series!


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