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By Justine Dorton

I’m going to supersede myself, and post again. I wrote that nursing post two weeks ago, to post this morning, but haven’t been able to get General Conference out of my head. So can we talk about it?

Can I express my gratitude that for one of the first times in recent memory, I wasn’t put on a pedestal in the Women’s General Broadcast, but rather was called to work. I couldn’t be happier.

Can I express my awe at Sister Beck’s words. I am a Woman who knows.

Can I express the peace I feel at knowing that I do know, and being able to identify why.

Can I express the love I feel for Elder Wirthlin and his example of not giving up — even when he maybe should have.

Can I think for a moment about my neighbors. I have to take care of them. I have to let them take care of me.

And can I express my respect for the curious. I’m ready to share.

What do you want to express today?


About Justine Dorton

Justine is a mother to five children, and has a husband lodged somewhere (probably in the den). She is not very fond of speaking of herself in third person.

15 thoughts on “Expressions”

  1. I loved Conference. I also loved that Womens Conference put me to work instead of on a pedestal. I feel so much more… respected that way, you know? More trustworthy.

    The flip side of that is, of course, that I don't have a handle on everything Sister Beck talked about. Not even close. But who does? This way I have more to aim for, and I'm given a sustaining vision of my sacred trust as a mother.

    I cried all through Elder Wirthlin's talk. I thought about how much love he has for the members of the Church, to keep speaking to us in that humble way. He exemplified what he spoke about.

    Also, I thought it was so interesting that President Packer gave essentially the same talk as the last time new apostles were sustained, when he spoke about Oliver Granger and the power of "ordinary" members. He used different examples, but the message was the same.

    Interestingly, President Eyring's Sunday morning talk was similar to the first talk he gave as an apostle. In his first talk, titled "Always Remember Him," he spoke about how always remembering the Savior helps us be more humble. In this one, he talked about ways to remember, and the blessings we receive from remembering.

    It was a powerful conference for me.

  2. I love how conference inspired me to want to do better, too. I've been thinking about that a lot anyway, wanting to do better, *be* better. Pres. Eyring, Elders Bednar and Oaks, and Sister Beck were my favorite, most inspiring speakers.

    I have to admit, when I listened to Sis. Beck at the RS meeting, I was first irritated by some of her words. I thought saying we could be the best in the world was prideful: there are many great women in the world. I also wondered how this call to be the best would effect those who struggle with unhealthy perfectionism.

    Putting my irritation aside, I chose to not focus on the semantics and instead, really listen to the message. I, too, am really excited by her talks! It seemed like she was saying, "You don't need to be molly-coddled anymore. It's time to rise up and fulfill our destinies! Let's get to it!"

    I loved that. It is time. Great posts, Justine!

  3. I too really enjoyed this conference for the same reason. As I listened to Sister Beck, some of it stirred up feelings of inadequacy (okay much of it) but at the same time I felt the spirit telling me I could make the changes I need to make! It was exciting to me to feel that motivational push in the right direction. Now I have to go and do. I can see why you would worry it sounded like pride but to me she was saying we should be the best because we know the whole plan of happiness – we know why we're here and what our purpose is so we should and or could be the best.

  4. I loved all of conference. It seemed especially powerful to me this year. I enjoyed Sister Beck's talk–particularly her strong and direct style of delivery. The one statement of hers that had me scratching my head though was: "Another word for nurturing is homemaking."


    I think what she must have meant was something like: "Homemaking is *part of* nurturing.

  5. I can kind of see where the homemaking/nurturing fits in. When I think of homemaking, I think of more than chores, decor, meals and order. I also think of creating a loving environment. Maybe she said it that way to get us to think a little deeper about it?

  6. I rather think that I have a remarkable opportunity that sometimes I overlook, in that I get to learn from all the mundane things in my life.

    I have to come to deeply believe there is something for me to learn from the exercises of my day. So for me, homemaking is so much more than the chores of the day. Homemaking involves all the responsibilities laid before me in the scriptures and the Family Proclamation. And while my husband is very loving and nurturing, I see my divinity in those roles.

    I haven't been able to get Elder Wirthlin out of my head either. I don't even remember one word that he said, but he made me cry like a baby nonetheless.

  7. I loved Sister Beck's talk, including the homemaking reference. I interpreted her statement to mean that the point of homemakng is to nurture. Sometimes I think women get away from that– either decorating etc for its own sake, or just ignoring the larger purpose of homemaking because they aren't particularly interested in decorating and the like. When she was finished I felt pretty inadequete, though. I was sitting there with tears in my eyes thinking how much I wanted to do better when my husband turned to me and said, "Isn't that cool? She just described you perfectly. I love what a fantastic wife and mother you are." It's all in your perspective, I guess.

    I could go on and on about the other talks. I came away with pages of notes and we talked conference with the kids all last night.

  8. I absolutely agree that homemaking (as we normally define it) is an important part of nurturing (those of you who know me well know that a clean house, healthy, nutritious food, and clean, well-groomed children are of utmost importance to me). But nurturing is much larger than that. When I think of nurturing my children, I think of snuggling with them, lying on the lawn (or trampoline) with them and chatting, reading to them, taking them to the library, to museums, to concerts, going on nature walks with them, helping them discover and develop their talents and passions . . . .

    None of these are things we traditionally associate with homemaking.

  9. You summed it up perfectly. Those are the exact thoughts I have been having. It is good to think on them again, before I try to venture reading the entire Nov. Ensign. Thanks.

  10. I can't stop thinking about Sister Beck's talk either. It felt empowering– to be held to a higher standard– and to be told, as a woman, that mothering is the most power you will ever wield.

    I agree: the Elder Wirthlin/Elder Nelson combo of love, Elder Eyring, loved Elder Holland's talk. As always, a perfect conference and seemingly/amazingly, just for me… Just what I needed.

  11. I think that everything Sharlee described is a part of homemaking. It takes a great amount of organization to keep a house in order and do those things as well. The time with children spent snuggling, reading, and doing activities is the core of nurturing, and usually I can't do it peacefully unless the house is under control. So I plan my "chore" time (or perhaps, traditional homemaking time) as efficiently as I can so that when the children are at home they are the focus. It's all tied together.

    We were driving and listening to conference during the Sat. afternoon session, so I could not see what was happening with Elder Wirthlin. But I could hear in his voice that something was very wrong. I started praying, and I imagined that everyone else watching and listening was praying too, and I hoped that somehow the energy of thousands of simultaneous prayers would be enough to carry him through to the end of his message. What a powerful example of charity.

  12. Wonderful post and comments. Thanks, sisters, for sharing your depth and understanding.

    I am basking in the power and wonder that was conference. The gospel is true, and I know that I know that I know. 🙂

  13. Great comments! Housekeeping and homemaking are NOT the same thing.

    Making a home is so much more than keeping house. It's largely emotional/spiritual. The cooking/cleaning parts are important but only one facet. It's like the provident living wheel–we usually think of food storage when we talk about provident living but food storage is only one of a half-dozen areas in the larger concept.

    It's good to remember that housekeeping is valuable service. It's also good to remember that it's not the only way we serve!

  14. I often feel inadequate and overwhelmed at the end of general conference unless I can really identify the spirit and remember that I have the tools to make any necessary changes, because the Savior gave them to me. It is Satan's number one way of getting to me, making me feel overwhelmed and like I should just give up trying. So, I focused especially hard on the spirit at the RS broadcast and found that by the end of the meeting I knew that I could ask the Lord what he would have me do, and he'd help me figure it out.

    I thought Sister Beck did put us on a pedestal, especially in conference. You can't tell someone they should be the very best, without putting them on a pedestal. You can't tell someone they have the ability to do the most important and powerful thing in the world without putting them on a pedestal.

    I love being reminded that cleaning my house is part of nurturing my family; creating a place for the spirit to dwell. Sure, of course it's not the only thing, but it's part of what we can do to build love and unity within our homes. Thank goodness it has more value than just having to do it for doing it's sake.


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