“May we all rejoice in the thought that when we say edifying, encouraging things unto the least of these, our brethren and sisters and little ones, we say it unto God.”
”“Jeffrey R. Holland (April 2007 General Conference)
This is the thought I shared at Primary Presidency meeting yesterday. This is the quote that has been on my mind today. I shant write a terrific blog post today because my head is swimming with thoughts and emotions on several fronts in my life. And for this same reason, I have had to work hard to keep my emotions and my attention where they should be today with my children.
Along with Elder Holland’s counsel (the whole talk was awesome, wasn’t it? I felt like hiding because I felt like he was talking to me, directly, and all 20-bazillion conference viewers would know what a sharp little tongue I have!), I have been thinking about two related Dr. Phil-isms (please forgive me–I know–Dr. Phil?? But these are good). First: Never make children carry adult burdens (so I’ve been keeping my concerns to myself); and second: your words and actions write on the slate of who your children are and who they will become. I have been so sensitive about this today, trying to keep them separated.
I do a terrible job of this and I want to be better. When I am with my children, I want my attitude and my words to reflect God’s love for them. I want my countenance to light up when our eyes meet so they know and feel how important they are, and that–even through all the work and struggles of being a family–they make my life worth living. I want my words to encourage and edify, not discourage or demean or burden them or worry them.
Share your feelings on this, will ya? Do you struggle with holding your tongue, with positive discipline, with showing charity at home by the way you speak? What are some things you do to keep your personal ducks in a row so you can give your best to your kids? And vice versa–tell about when you’ve felt the spirit as you “say edifying, encouraging things.”