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Sabbath Revival: “Holding My Tongue”

By Julia Blue

It’s mid-summer, and many of my mommy friends are feeling a little kid fatigue from the all-day every day nonstop time with their children. Today’s Sabbath Revival post was originally published in July 2007 by Jamie, and I thought it was a sweet reminder not just for parenting, but for all our communication.


“May we all rejoice in the thought that when we say edifying, encouraging things unto the least of these, our brethren and sisters and little ones, we say it unto God.”
Jeffrey R. Holland (April 2007 General Conference)

This is the thought I shared at Primary Presidency meeting yesterday. This is the quote that has been on my mind today. I shant write a terrific blog post today because my head is swimming with thoughts and emotions on several fronts in my life. And for this same reason, I have had to work hard to keep my emotions and my attention where they should be today with my children.

Along with Elder Holland’s counsel (the whole talk was awesome, wasn’t it? I felt like hiding because I felt like he was talking to me, directly, and all 20-bazillion conference viewers would know what a sharp little tongue I have!), I have been thinking about two related Dr. Phil-isms (please forgive me–I know–Dr. Phil?? But these are good). First: Never make children carry adult burdens (so I’ve been keeping my concerns to myself); and second: your words and actions write on the slate of who your children are and who they will become. I have been so sensitive about this today, trying to keep them separated.

I do a terrible job of this and I want to be better. When I am with my children, I want my attitude and my words to reflect God’s love for them. I want my countenance to light up when our eyes meet so they know and feel how important they are, and that–even through all the work and struggles of being a family–they make my life worth living. I want my words to encourage and edify, not discourage or demean or burden them or worry them.

Share your feelings on this, will ya? Do you struggle with holding your tongue, with positive discipline, with showing charity at home by the way you speak? What are some things you do to keep your personal ducks in a row so you can give your best to your kids? And vice versa–tell about when you’ve felt the spirit as you “say edifying, encouraging things.”

About Julia Blue

(Blog Team) married to a hunky Aussie cowboy carpenter farmer composer filmmaker, who has turned her world upside down (this is a good thing). For even more fun, she flies around the world serving snacks and drinks, checking that seat belts are fastened, occasionally providing medical attention and hoping to never be a firefighter.

4 thoughts on “Sabbath Revival: “Holding My Tongue””

  1. A life changing thing for me was to study Nicholeen Peck's parenting course. She is LDS and has written and lectured extensively on parenting. I credit her course and the things I have learned that has helped me . I have learned to focus on being posative yet honest and real in my
    relationships with my children. And to

  2. Daily meditation has been a major transformative influence in my life. I cannot stress enough how much the joint power of prayer, scripture study and meditation has helped me feel the Spirit and receive revelation. I have more patience and love for my family and feel deeper joy.

  3. Regular temple attendance was literally a saving ordinance in my life when I was a young mother struggling to stay afloat in a sea of overwhelming responsibilities, challenges and expectations. Now that my children are pre-teens, I'm beginning to wonder if perhaps I was better off when they were babies. Grass is greener syndrome maybe??? Either way, I find it extremely hard to keep my tongue in check. Thank you for this timely reminder to use my words to build rather than tear down. I'm reminded of my constant need to be endowed with power (in this case – patience and restraint) from on high through regular temple worship.


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