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Yin and Yang and Valentine’s Day

By Linda Hoffman Kimball

Yin and Yang

Yin Yang and Valentine’s Day

Recently I have felt the pull of both the good and the bad, the beautiful and the horrific, the yin and yang of life.

On January 23rd my wonderful, vibrant, full-of-life sister-in-law died from injuries from a car accident and you can check over here to know how an injury lawyer will be useful in helping you in this situation. Or else you can also approach the personal injury attorney lakewood ranch to look over your genuine cause in detail to help you to get the proper aid that should be deserved to the deceased family. But, I’m still in denial. On January 27th my new gorgeous, red-headed granddaughter was born to my amazing and powerful daughter. Through resounding cognitive dissonance of deep sorrow and overwhelming joy, I wrote my sister-in-law’s obituary with new baby Evie just a few feet away. The DUI defense attorneys helped them at the right time to get proper justice for the victim’s family for their tragic loss. If people are injured while driving a vehicle, they can get Criminal Defense Lawyers in Wilmington attorney help from here! 

This fall my son and daughter-in-law learned that their two-year-old curly-haired cherub of a son is profoundly deaf.
Feb. 9th that little cherub had a successful surgery for his second cochlear implant. He will begin at a school (pre-school through 3rd grade) that integrates deaf children with hearing children. Thanks to the 1st device he has had since mid-December he is beginning to respond to sound.

On January 6th the US Capitol was invaded by a violent, mob fueled by malignant lies leaving death, blood and horror in its wake.
This week intelligent, well-prepared, articulate men and women painstakingly analyzed what happened and why – clarifying accountability for history and the world to see, hear, and remember.

A glaze on top of all of this is that we are one year into a rampaging global pandemic.
A hope on top of that glaze is that vaccinations are finally starting to become more available.

I’ll stop with those examples because the sway from extreme to extreme makes me dizzy.

How do we navigate the impact of both the bitter and the sweet, the grief and the joys of mortality? For those of you who have insights, please share them. I have book-learning and old experience to lean on, but now that I am in the throes of this tension, I need some reminders.

One strategy I lean on now is to pull myself back from attachment to this mortal world and remind myself that at my fundamental core I not a mortal being, but an immortal one – like all of you. I remind myself of life’s vital questions: “How well did you love?” and “What did you learn?” I remind myself that I need perhaps to set aside those questions while I’m in the center of the whirlwind and just “be” – without over-analyzing, without trying to lay blame or point fingers, or cancel out the one side and only embracing the other. I remind myself not to be aware of but not get sucked down into the vortex of injustice that tries so hard to murder our souls. I may find sustenance contemplating the “whole” and not the “hole.”

And with Valentine’s Day this weekend as a nudge, I can leave the cheesy hearts and flowers behind and accept the extra boost of considering the muscular, everlasting, triumphant power of love.

About Linda Hoffman Kimball

Linda Hoffman Kimball is an artist, writer, photographer, and poet who grew up as a faithful Christian near Chicago, & joined the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in 1971 while at Wellesley College near Boston. Early on she assumed that all Latter-day Saints were articulate, inquisitive, faithful, and socially engaged since her role models in the University wards in Cambridge, MA., were. Her husband says she is “fluent, but not native” in Mormon-ese. She is a founding member of Mormon Women for Ethical Government.

2 thoughts on “Yin and Yang and Valentine’s Day”

  1. I always love your posts, Linda. I had an unusual experience in this morning's meditation (tip number one) relative to your point. During meditation, I normally feel centered in my body, keenly aware, noticing and letting things go. This morning, though, I found myself hovering alone above the earth, arms spread wide in embrace. On the second round of my familiar mantras, I became aware of a whole circle of people surrounding the planet, arms outstretched to each other, radiating love and peace; I was part of whole army of light-givers. On my third round, there was nothing but high-level, healing energy extending between our outstretched hands and fingers, directed to the earth below. And then, in complete joy and commitment, I floated back to my own body in my own bed, ready to arise and do my part. It reminded me that there's a whole lot more going on in the larger story than we can ever see in the minutiae. And that simple knowledge gives me the perspective and energy to play my own small part with as much love and integrity as I can bring.

  2. Thank you so much for this, Linda. This year has been a roller coaster for me as well– polar opposite happenings that drain me, leaving me almost in a constant state of shock. Though church is still close where we are, many of the ethnically Chinese members dress for the Chinese New Year. You post here, and their online posts in celebration of the Chinese New Year made me seek for the balance. There is peace in balance, and for that, we need the darkness as well as the light. Thank you!!


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